The night of the henna is a very special day for Turkish women. It is generally celebrated one night before the wedding day. this traditional night is mostly for bride, bride's female friends and female family members. (it is kind of a girls' night together) you are feeling very happy at the same time very sad at that night because you know you are leaving your parent, your family the next day to begin a new family of your own with someone you love. the song that is going to be sing on that night will be:
Kinayi getir anne
parmagin batir anne..
bu gece misafir et..
koynunda yatir anne..
approximately meaning: "put the henna on my hands momy and let me be your guest and stay in your arms tonight"
or another (more common) song is:
yuksek yuksek tepelere ev kurmasinlar..
arsi arsi memlekete kiz vermesinler..
annesinin bir tanesini hor gormesinler..
ucan da kuslara malum olsun ben annemi ozledim..
hem annemi hem babami ben koyumu ozledim..
the meaning is similar. the bride is going to miss her mom, her father and her home. the mom is wishing her precious daughter a happy marriage and she hopes her daughter is not going to be far from her.
I felt like I really miss my mom now. ;)
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i am going to crying:(i remember my henna night,i was happy also i was soo sad like all bridge...
i miss my mom to,i also miss you zeynep.
you are the one who i always,always like to talk to you
Zeynep hi. You apparently started a very interesting webpage. I have a webpage myself mostly about food but frankly, I would love to see more internet pages like yours which are about Turkish culture and life style. Henna night is truly very special for every young Turkish girl. Nevertheless, I came to believe that most of us (modern-age brides) actually were laughing under the headcover, instead of crying as we were supposed to according to the tradition:))
Best luck!
thank you Kalimero and Hulya..
I miss you very much my dear Hulya.. since the henna night time was very special for me, I would like to begin my webpage with that night. only Turkish ladies can understand it I guess.
and dear Kalimero,
I agree that crying is not the case for all the henna nights for especiallay modern-age brides. I think that it is more related to how much you are closer to your family_especially your mom, and where you are going to live after the marriage. (if you will live closer or far away) I dont think crying is necessary though. it is just the deep emotion that you are feeling deep inside whether or not you are showing it.
for some modern (!!??!) families in Turkey, it is sad that they dont even want to have a henna night. but I think it is a really good tradition that every girl has to experience before they get married. because I am sure they will understand the value of their parents _ especially their mom's_ after they begin to start their own families.
thank you for your support and your valuable comments.
I just came home from my sister's Henna Night. We are American, and she is marrying a wonderful Turkish man in 2 days. His Mother and Aunt came in from Turkey for the wedding, and brought this tradition (and some henna) with them; it was my family's first exposure to the tradition. We are so thankful they shared this with us! I definitely see the purpose of the evening's ceremony- it allowed the women to come together to recognize both the joy and sorrow of leaving home (my sister cried and cried!), then we all closed the night with joyful Turkish music and dance among the ladies! Beautiful tradition! Emily
Hi Emily,
Thank you for sharing your comment here. I am glad that you have a really good time in your sister's henna night. I wish your sister and her Turkish husband will live happily and peacefully all their lives. I hope you will have chance to visit Turkey and enjoy seeing beautiful and historical places there. Sincerely..
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